6 Tips For Online Dating Every Women Should Follow
Online dating is quickly becoming the number one method for couples meeting each other. There are so many options at your disposal, from apps to websites to match making services. But there are a few tips that can help you find your perfect match.
I've done my fair share of online dating, and I've had great success. So here are some of my personal tips and safety rules when meeting someone online.
Avoid Free Services
Online sites that are 100% free tend to have lots of men who are seeking affairs or hookups. Because there is no investment required and no credit card on file, it means any man can create a private account in minutes and start chatting with you. People who are serious about achieving a goal are willing to invest in the reward.
If you are just looking for a hookup, go ahead and use a free service, but if you are serious about finding your mate, shell out a few bucks and get a target audience who is just as serious as you.
What makes a paid service even more successful is that when you do find your match, chances are you will both delete your account to avoid paying for something that is no longer needed.
Research Your Matches
It's easy to create a fake account and even easier to lie to someone about your credentials, what you do and what your intentions are. If you've tried online dating in the past and have even gone on a few dates, you may know what I'm talking about. People put their best foot forward online, they will post pictures of themselves from 10 years ago.
It’s important that you spend a decent amount of time having online conversations with your potential mate before you meet. This process is often overlooked because people have the tendency of wanting immediate results. But there is nothing more frustrating than meeting a man in person and realizing he lied about who he is and what he does.
Create A Good Profile
What you say in your profile matters. Even though men are initially attracted to physical features, quality men will want to know more about you. Keep your profile positive, don't allow yourself to post anything negative. I've seen so many profiles online from women who have a checklist of qualifications to meet before messaging them. These women are clearly frustrated with the process.
Instead of focusing on the types of men you don't want to meet in your profile, talk about yourself and what interests you. Give men some material to work with or expect the typical, "Hey beautiful" message.
Try Something New
Some people use online dating sites as if they were shopping for a product. They focus on what they see and if it’s appealing they go for the buy. If you've had lots of failed relationships, you need to ask yourself why those relationships failed. I've seen lots of my friends try and fail hard with relationships because they go for the wrong types of men. It's a pattern they continue to repeat.
"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you always got." Don't allow yourself to only talk to men that are your "type." Try talking to someone new who has interests that you admire, even if they aren't your typical "type."
Don't Be Desperate
You meet a guy you like, you have a few conversations and suddenly you don't hear from him again. So you message him multiple times asking where he went. If you've done this in the past, stop doing it now. Men are attracted to women who know their value and your value won't be very high if you come off desperate. It’s human nature to want what we can’t have. If a man knows he can have you easily, you’re not going to be in demand.
Do not ask him on a date, this will lower your value and may come off as a bit desperate. When you do meet and he is a guy you like, do not sleep with him the first night you meet him. Although most men would gladly hope in bed with you on the first date, it lowers your value and if your goal is to find a long lasting relationship you need to keep high value during the courtship phase of your relationship. Play hard to get, challenge him and make him invest time in you before you give yourself away.
Post the Right Photos
No matter how much chemistry you have with a man online, if you lie about your looks, don't be surprised if you never get a callback. I've seen so many pictures of women online that use 15 different photo filters to make themselves look marketable. It's easy to deceive people online and that deception is ultimately revealed in person.
Post new pictures of yourself and make sure you smile in your photos. Men are biologically attracted to women who smile. If you want a quality man, stay away from selfies and pictures of yourself in seductive poses. While it may be true that you will get more messages if you post sexually revealing photos, the types of men messaging you will be of lower quality.